4 mistakes and lessons to be more assertive and get what you want

Photo by NeONBRAND on UnsplashEvery one of us has specific milestones in life. Might it be to achieve a degree, to get the dream job, or build a business from scratch? To achieve these targets, we often think of studying the material that underlines the discipline thoroughly will be enough. Think of Bill Gates or Elon Musk, who just know everything they need to know about their business, and if not, they keep on studying.But, what many people do not realize in time is the requirement for an assertive mindset.Assertiveness can have negative associations such as being arrogant or selfish, and of course, no one wants that. However, most individuals are far from being assertive and then wonder why it takes so long for them to achieve their goals, although they do plenty of steps that should contribute to their progress.For instance, I have a friend who was brilliant in school. She studied hard, she scored high. She wanted to be liked and played it always safe with people. And that was fatal to her success. People exploited her kindness, they used her, and she won little or nothing by interacting with her colleagues. Until this day, she has issues with setting clear borders, and all her work might be brilliant, but it is not she who shines.In order to prevent that and to nurture my mindset, I read a lot of books on these topics such as “Nice girls still don’t get the corner office” by Dr. Louis Franklin or “Don’t split the difference” by Chris Voss. I was astonished by the simple but profound mistakes people do. These mistakes, as we call them, are sometimes even habits. Habits that we developed without realizing. Habits that come from our environment, such as parents and friends or books and series…